Not Wednesday, not Thursday, but TUESDAY. Thanks

So I've changed the names and the dates in this post..but if the person who wrote it ever finds it...they'll know it was them...I'm just THAT passive aggressive.  


A few years ago I got married.  I know it's crazy like that....and I invited friends to my wedding and lots of family and it was a lovely time.  When I was working on the invitations I sent one out to my guy friend and his fiancée.  Lets just call them Mike and Becky...cause heck...I'm so creative with my made up names.  


So I had never met Becky and Mike and I had known each other about 5-6 years and we actually hung out a lot in college and he was a great guy and I wanted him to be part of my wedding day.  INVITED.  He met this girl after college so I was never part of their relationship, didn't know much about it.  I was happy he was bringing her...I hadn't talked to him about his wedding I didn't know the date of it...so when I received their RSVP it said Mr & Mrs Mikes Last Name were attending and wanted the fish....I was a bit floored.  


WOAH THEY GOT MARRIED? I was shocked, because I thought we were close and I was really bummed I hadn't been invited to the wedding, and heck its okay...at the end of the day I was just glad they were coming.  Maybe I could make a more concentrated effort in the future to be their friends, I clearly had missed an important part of my friends life and maybe I had let our friendship slip and I felt bad...


UNTIL MY WEDDING DAY.  

Now there was a lot of drama on my wedding day...none of which (ask my friends) was coming from the bride or the groom....which was nice....but we get married (yippee) and we get to the reception and my friend Mike comes up to me with the new wife and introduces her as his fiancée.  At this point I am CLEARLY CONFUSED.  


Maybe in my whole rush of getting married in 5 months I just missed something, maybe I was just confused about how they RSVP'ed, maybe I was just crazy.  But because I had nothing better to do at my wedding reception I sought out the seating chart, and then the printed table settings and in fact there it was again "Mr and Mrs Mikes Last Name!"  So clearly I was not totally insane...they had responded that way.


Now I am SUPER superstitious in like 3 areas...men, marriage and pregnancy.  I don't mess with that karma....seriously.  Theres a reason I have a semi stable home life and a semi normal kid...I don't announce things that haven't happened.  I didn't preemptively call myself a Mrs. I dont go around saying I'm a mom of two...cause CLEARLY I'm a mom of one.  I also wouldn't reply to a formal event with a name that was not mine.  


WEIRD.


So I let it pass...(clearly I'm so good at letting things go? haha) and a few months later I get their wedding invite, phew I'm invited, I didn't miss my friends life changing event, I'm only a little crazy...except its not me thats crazy.......


Dave and I were not sure if we were going to be able to make it to the wedding so I was holding off sending in the RSVP till we were sure.  I had the date the RSVP needed to be sent back by on my calendar.  I just didn't want to say we would be there and then not show up.  I KNOW how annoying that can be, I had a few people do that at my wedding.  (and no I'm not talking about dear friends of ours who let us know and were unable to make it...you guys...you're all cool...I'm talking about the jerks who rsvp'ed and I STILL have yet to talk to them...4 years later...) again...I'm sooo good at letting things go haha.


So I waited a bit and then about a week before the RSVP's needed to be back in the brides hands I get this email....


So I know sending a mass email is totally tacky, but as of today,
3/20/2007, I have not received an RSVP for our wedding from you. You
can verbally tell me you are not coming(or through email), but if you
are coming, please send me the card. It is due by next Tuesday. Yes,
Tuesday, as in 3/27/2007. Not Wednesday, not Thursday, but TUESDAY.
Thanks,
Becky




Now I'm sorry if I'm just prude or too uptight or way too Emily Post but THAT right there my friends is RUDE.


1. No "Hello, Hi, Sorry to be a bit forward and snotty but" just jump right in and rip us all a new one.
2. I am not 100% sure if the bride got the memo but this is a WEDDING not a kegger.  How dare you talk to people you invited that way.  
3. You admit you're being tacky...and you don't care? Wow...Glad my friend married you. 
4. If you REALLY needed the information sooner, then you should have moved your RSVP date up.  
5. This email was sent to my student email account at a school people didn't know I was attending, aka she had to search the internet for it....stalker creepy.
6. This girl met me ONCE...at my own wedding...and felt at that point it was okay to talk to me this way. This email went to a large group, I hope for her sake it didn't go to my friends grandparents or older relatives, because while I was ticked, I cannot imagine being that horrendously rude to my elders.  
7.  Planning a wedding is VERY stressful, it can often bring out a not so pleasant side of ones self.  I fully concede that, but that email was thoughtless and I would be deeply embarrassed if I were her.


So at the time of the email, I was SO OFFENDED...I did not respond.  AT ALL.  I have to say looking back I totally stand by it, I was very offended by someone I don't know well, and clearly she had no problem talking to me that way and I knew if I had responded I would have been condescending and snotty....so I just didn't respond.


To this day I have yet to speak to either my friend or his wife.  Not because I'm angry or because of that email but because we've both moved in different directions, we have separate lives with separate spouses and we don't have much in common anymore.  I'm sad I didn't go to his wedding  because I know it was important to him and I wanted to be a supportive friend.  I'm glad hes happily married (I hope) but WOW that lady is CRAZY.  


I also have learned that as polite and PC as I try to be...I'm really just CRAZY PASSIVE AGGRESSIVE....most people just think I'm nice... apparently they are wrong? lol